Navigating relationships with adult children is a unique stage in life. Ray, E.Z., Mark., and Oscar share their perspectives on this issue, starting with the fact that you no longer have the same authority but still play a vital role. Mark, having heard a preacher’s advice, tells his adult children they are always welcome home for holidays and special occasions but are not expected to come. The absence of expectations can sometimes draw people closer. Putting pressure on relationships can make things awkward. Oscar, who isn’t quite there with his own children but mentors young adults, often hears their hesitation in stepping into adulthood. He encourages them to recognize the blessing of having Christian parents that care, noting that honoring your parents is commanded by God. He emphasizes that respecting parents isn’t about their perfection but rather honoring the office of parenthood.

Getting children to value honoring their parents begins with early teachings of the fear of the Lord. When children grow in their love for God, they will honor their parents out of obedience to His word. For young children, parents should be diligent in correcting disrespect right away, ensuring their kids understand that rebellion is a serious matter. Disciplining with focus ensures children learn the importance of obedience and respect. As children grow older and make choices you may not like but aren’t sinful, trusting God’s plan becomes crucial. Parents should learn to let go if it’s not sinful and recognize that their children are being sanctified in the image of God. The goal of parenting is to raise young adults who are equipped to be salt and light in the world. This often means stepping back and letting them be adults, allowing them to make mistakes and grow.

If the relationship with adult children has deteriorated, humility is essential. Be willing to admit mistakes and seek reconciliation. At the end of the day, young adults make their own choices, and sometimes they pull away. Oscar shares a story of a friend whose parents want to reconnect, and though it feels awkward, Oscar reminds him that his parents are meeting him where he is in life like they did when he was younger. This continued love mirrors how God pursues us. For those with adult children still living at home, maintaining respect, responsibility, and righteousness is key. Parents should continue to honor the Lord and set boundaries while acknowledging that their children are ultimately God’s. Walking in truth and love is essential to fostering a healthy relationship with adult children.